Isifundo se-WT: Yakha Umshado Oqinile Futhi Ojabulisayo

[Kusuka ku-ws15 / 01 p. I-18 yangoMashi 16-22]

“Ngaphandle kokuthi uJehova ayakha indlu, akulutho
ukuthi abakhi bayo bayazikhandla phezu kwayo ”- 1 Cor. I-11: 24

Kuneseluleko esihle seBhayibheli ocwaningweni lwaleli sonto. ImiBhalo yangaphambi kobuKristu ayinikezi izeluleko eziningi eziqondile ngabashadile. Kunokufundiswa okwengeziwe ngokugcina umshado uphumelela emiBhalweni YamaKristu, kodwa nangale lapho, iyancipha. Iqiniso ngukuthi, i-Bhayibheli asilinikwanga incwadi yemishado. Noma kunjalo, izimiso ezidingekayo zokuphumelela emshadweni zikhona zonke, futhi ngokuzisebenzisa, singazifinyelela.
Esinye sezici esingaqondakali kahle somshado yisimiso sobuKristu sobunhloko. Abantu — owesilisa nowesifazane — badalwa ngomfanekiso kaNkulunkulu, kodwa abafani. Kwakungalungile ukuthi indoda ihlale yodwa.

“UJehova uNkulunkulu wabe esethi:“ Akukuhle ukuba umuntu aqhubeke eyedwa. Ngizomenzela umsizi, abe ngumphelelisi wakhe. ”" (Ge 2: 18 NWT)

Lesi ngesinye salezo zikhathi lapho ngithanda ukwenziwa kwe INguqulo Yezwe Elisha. "Ukuphelelisa" kungasho "ukuphelela", noma "ukugcwala", noma "into ethi, uma ingezwa, igcwalise noma yenze konke; noma yiziphi izingxenye ezimbili ezigcwalisa ngokulandelana. ”Lokhu kusichaza kahle isintu. Indoda yadalwa uNkulunkulu ukuba izoshada nayo. Kanjalo nowesifazane. Kungokuba yilowo nalowo kuphela lapho umuntu ngamunye angazuza ukuphelela noma ukugcwala okuhloswe nguJehova.
Lokhu bekumele kube njalo esimweni esibusisekile lapho babehloselwe khona ukuba babe khona, ngaphandle kwethonya elonakalisayo lesono. Isono sichitha ibhalansi yethu yangaphakathi. Kwenza ukuthi ezinye izimfanelo ziqine kakhulu, kanti ezinye ziba buthaka. Ebona ukuthi isono sizokwenzenjani ekuhlanganiseni kobumbano bomshado, uJehova watshela lona wesifazane okulandelayo, okubhalwe kuGenesise 3: 16:

“Isifiso sakho siyakuba ngomyeni wakho, yena uzokubusa.” - NIV

“… Ukulangazelela kwakho kuzakuba ngumyeni wakho, yena uzokubusa.” - NWT

Ezinye izinguqulo zihumusha lokhu ngokwehlukile.

“Futhi uzofisa ukulawula umyeni wakho, kepha yena uzokubusa.” - NLT

“Uzofuna ukulawula umyeni wakho, kepha yena uzokuqondisa.” - NET Bible

Noma yikuphi ukunikela okuyikho okuyikho, bobabili bakhombisa ukuthi ubudlelwane bendoda nomkayo babushiywe ngaphandle. Sikubonile okwedlulele lapho ubunhloko buhlanekezelwe khona, kuguqula abesifazane babe yizigqila emazweni amaningi omhlaba, kuyilapho eminye imiphakathi ibukela phansi ngokuphelele umthetho wobunhloko.
Izigaba 7 thru 10 zalolu cwaningo zixoxa ngendaba yobunhloko, kepha kunokwehlukahlukana okungokwesiko okuthinta ukuqonda kwethu ngalesi sihloko kangangokuba kulula kakhulu ukucabanga ukuthi sinombono weBhayibheli ngenkathi empeleni silingisa amasiko namasiko esiko lethu.

Buyini Ubunhloko?

Emiphakathini eminingi, ukuba yinhloko kusho ukuba yiyona ophethe. Ikhanda, ngemuva kwakho konke, ingxenye yomzimba iqukethe ubuchopho, futhi sonke siyazi ukuthi ubuchopho babusa umzimba. Uma ucela uJoe omaphakathi ukuthi akunikeze isichazamazwi esithi “inhloko”, cishe uzoza no “umphathi”. Manje kukhona igama elingagcwalisi iningi lethu ngokukhanya okufudumele nokunesidina.
Masizame isikhashana ukusula ubandlululo olungafundile nobandlululo sonke esinalo ngenxa yokusikhuliswa kwethu futhi sibheke kabusha okushiwo ubunhloko ngombono weBhayibheli. Bheka indlela amaqiniso nemigomo emiBhalweni elandelayo esebenzisana ngayo ukuze uguqule ukuqonda kwethu.

“Kepha ngifuna nazi ukuthi uKristu uyinhloko yawo wonke amadoda, nendoda inhloko yowesifazane, uNkulunkulu uyinhloko kaKristu.” - 1Co 11: 3 NET Bible

“… Ngiqinisile ngiqinisile ngithi kuwe, iNdodana kayikwazi ukwenza into eyodwa ngokwayo, kodwa kuphela lokho ibona uYise ekwenza. Ngoba noma yiziphi izinto ezenziwa yilowo Muntu, lezi zinto neNdodana izenza ngendlela efanayo. .Angikwazi ukwenza into eyodwa ngokwami; njengoba nje ngizwa, ngahlulela; futhi isahlulelo engisikhipha silungile, ngoba angifuni intando yami, kodwa intando yalowo ongithumile. ”(UJoh 5: 19, 30)

"... Indoda inhloko yomkayo njengoba noKristu eyinhloko yebandla ..." (Eph 5: 23)

KwabaseKhorinte bokuqala 11: I-3 isinikeza uchungechunge lomyalo ocacile: uJehova kuJesu; UJesu endodeni; indoda kowesifazane. Noma kunjalo, kunokuthile okungajwayelekile ngalesi sakhiwo esithile somyalo. NgokukaJohn 5: I-19, i-30, uJesu akenzi lutho ngokwakhe, kodwa kuphela lokho akubona kukwenza ubaba. Akayona umphathi wakho we-archetypal — ozimele futhi azibalulekile. UJesu akasithathi isikhundla sakhe njengekhanda izaba zokuba nendlela yakhe futhi engazenzi amakhosi phezu kwabanye. Esikhundleni salokho, unikela eyakhe intando kuYise. Akekho umuntu olungileyo ongaba nenkinga noNkulunkulu njengenhloko yakhe, futhi njengoba uJesu enza kuphela lokho abona uYise enza futhi ethanda kuphela lokho uNkulunkulu akufunayo, asinakuba nenkinga ngoJesu njengenhloko yethu.
Ukulandela lo mqondo wokucabanga njengoba kwenza abase-Efesu 5: 23, ayilandeli yini ukuthi le ndoda kumele ifane noJesu? Uma ezoba yinhloko ethi i-1 Korion 11: I-3 ifuna, akufanele yenze lutho ngokwayo, kodwa kuphela lokho ibona uKristu enza. Intando kaKristu iyintando yomuntu, njengoba intando kaNkulunkulu iyintando kaKristu. Ngakho-ke ubunhloko bendoda abulona ilayisensi yaphezulu emgunyaza ukuba abuse futhi anqotshwe ngowesifazane. Amadoda enza lokho, yebo, kodwa kuphela njengomphumela wokungalingani ezingqondweni zethu ezihlangene ezilethwe yisimo sethu sesono.
Lapho owesilisa ebusa umuntu wesifazane, usuke engathembeki ekhanda lakhe. Eqinisweni, wephula uchungechunge lomyalo futhi azimise njengekhanda eliphikisana noJehova noJesu.
Isimo indoda okufanele sibe nayo ukuze sigweme ukungqubuzana noNkulunkulu sitholakala emazwini okuqala engxoxo kaPawulu ngomshado.

"Zithobeni omunye komunye ngokwesaba uKristu." (Efe. 5: 21)

Kufanele sizithobe kubo bonke abanye, njengoba noKristu enza. Wayephila impilo yokuzidela, ebeka izintshisekelo zabanye ngaphezu kwezakhe. Ubunhloko abuphathelene nokuba nezinto ngendlela yakho, kumayelana nokusebenzela abanye nokubabheka. Ngakho-ke, ubunhloko bethu kufanele bulawulwe uthando. KuJesu, wayelithanda kakhulu ibandla kangangokuba “wazinikela ngenxa yalo, ukuze alingcwelise, elihlanza ngokuligeza ngamanzi ngegama elithi….” (Efe. 5: 25, 26) Umhlaba ugcwele amakhanda ombuso, ababusi, omongameli, undunankulu, amakhosi… kepha bangaki abake babonisa izimfanelo zokuzinikela nokuzenzisa okwenziwa nguJesu?

Izwi Ngokuhlonishwa Okujulile

Ekuqaleni, eyabase-Efesu 5: I-33 ingabonakala ingalingani, noma ikhetha abesilisa.

“Noma kunjalo, yilowo nalowo kini kufanele athande umkakhe njengoba ezithanda yena; ngakolunye uhlangothi, umfazi kufanele abe nenhlonipho ejulile ngomyeni wakhe. ”(I-Eph 5: 33 NWT)

Kungani kungekho seluleko esinikwa umyeni ukuba abe nenhlonipho ejulile ngomkakhe? Impela amadoda kufanele ahloniphe omkawo. Futhi kungani abesifazane bengatshelwa ukuthi bathande abayeni babo njengoba bezithanda bona?
Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho sibheka ukwakheka okungafani kwengqondo kowesilisa nowesifazane lapho ukuhlakanipha kwaphezulu okukuleli vesi kuvela khona.
Abesilisa nabesifazane bobabili babona futhi bazwakalise uthando ngokuhlukile. Bahumusha izenzo ezehlukene njengezothando noma ukungathandi. (Ngikhuluma okuvamile lapha futhi-ke kuzoba khona okwehlukile.) Uyozwa kangaki owesilisa ekhononda ngokuthi umkakhe akasamtsheli ukuthi usamthanda. Ngokuvamile akuyona inkinga, akunjalo? Kodwa-ke abesifazane bayazazisa izinkulumo ezikhulunywa njalo nezimpawu zothando. Okungacelwanga ukuthi "Ngiyakuthanda", noma isixha sezimbali ezimangazayo, noma ukuphululwa okungalindelekile, ngezinye zezindlela umyeni angaqinisekisa ngazo unkosikazi ngothando lwakhe oluqhubekayo. Kumele futhi abone ukuthi abesifazane badinga ukukhuluma ngezinto, babelane ngemicabango nemizwa yabo. Ngemuva kosuku lokuqala, amantombazane amaningi asakhulile azoya emakhaya afonele umngani wabo osondele kakhulu ukuxoxa ngakho konke okwenzekile phakathi nosuku. Umfana kungenzeka abuyele ekhaya, ayophuza, abuke nemidlalo. Sihlukile futhi amadoda angena emshadweni okokuqala kumele afunde ukuthi izidingo zowesifazane zihluke kanjani kwezakhe.
Abesilisa bangabaxazululi bezinkinga futhi lapho abesifazane befuna ukukhuluma ngenkinga abanayo bavame ukufuna indlebe elalelayo, hhayi indoda yokulungisa. Bakhombisa uthando ngokuxhumana. Ngokuphambene nalokho, lapho amadoda amaningi enenkinga, athatha umhlalaphansi aye emhumeni wendoda ukuze azame ukuzilungisa wona ngokwawo. Abesifazane bavame ukubheka lokhu njengokungenaluthando, ngoba bazizwa bevalelwe ngaphandle. Lokhu yinto thina besilisa okufanele siyiqonde.
Amadoda ahlukile kulokhu. Asibongi izeluleko ezingacelwanga, noma zivela kumngane osondelene naye. Uma owesilisa etshela umngani wakhe ukuthi enze kanjani okuthile noma axazulule inkinga ethile, lokho kusho ukuthi umngane wakhe akanamandla okukulungisa ngokwakhe. Kungathathwa njengokunciphisa phansi. Kodwa-ke, uma indoda icela umngani wayo izeluleko zayo, lokhu kuyinkomba yokuhlonipha nokumethemba. Kuzobonakala njengokuncoma.
Lapho owesifazane ekhombisa ukuhlonipha owesilisa ngokwethembela kuye, ngokungamngabazi, ngokungamqageli ngokwesibili, uthi ngolimi lwesilisa "Ngiyakuthanda". Indoda ephathwa ngenhlonipho ngomunye ayifuni ukulahlekelwa yilokho. Uzozama kanzima ukuwugcina futhi wakhe phezu kwawo. Indoda ezwa umkayo ayihlonipha izomane ifune ukumjabulisa kakhulu ukuze iqhubeke futhi ikhule leyo nhlonipho.
Lokho uNkulunkulu akutshela owesilisa nabesifazane kwabase-Efesu 5: I-33 ukuthanda umuntu. Bobabili bathola isiluleko esifanayo, kepha bahambisana nezidingo zabo ngamunye.

Izwi Ngokuxolelwa

Ezigabeni 11 thru 13, lesi sihloko sikhuluma ngesidingo sokuxolelana ngokukhululekile. Kodwa-ke, ibuka ngakolunye uhlangothi lwemali. Ngenkathi ucaphuna iMt 18: i-21, i-22 ukwenza amacala ayo, uma enganaki umgomo wokugcwalisa otholakala kuLuka:

Zinake. Uma umfowenu enza isono mkhuze, futhi uma ephenduka mthethelele. ⁴ Noma ekona kasikhombisa ngosuku kuwe futhi ebuyela kuwe kasikhombisa, ethi, 'Ngiyaphenduka,' kumele umxolele. ”(Luka 17: 3,4)

Kuliqiniso ukuthi uthando lungasibekela inqwaba yezono. Singathethelela noma ngabe umuntu owonile akenzangaxolisa. Lokhu singakwenza ukukholelwa ukuthi ngokwenza kanjalo abangane bethu ekugcineni bazokwazi ukuthi usilimazile futhi waxolisa. Ezimweni ezinjalo, intethelelo yandulela ukuphenduka uJesu afuna. Kodwa-ke, uzophawula ukuthi imfuneko yakhe yokuthethelela — noma kasikhombisa ngosuku (“okuyisikhombisa” okubonisa ukugcwala) - ihlangene nesimo sokuguquka. Uma ngaso sonke isikhathi sithethelela kuyilapho singadingi ukuthi omunye aphenduke noma axolise, ngabe asivumeli ukuziphatha okubi? Kungaba kanjani nothando lokho? Yize ukuthethelela kuyimfanelo ebalulekile yokugcina ubunye emshadweni kanye nokuvumelana, ukulungela ukuvuma ukona noma iphutha lakhe, okungenani, kubaluleke ngokulinganayo.
Izingxoxo ngomshado zizoqhubeka ngesonto elizayo nesihloko esithi, “Vumela uJehova Aqinise Futhi Aphephe Umshado Wakho”.

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