Lokhu ukuhunyushwa kwendatshana kaJulayi 22, 2017 eTrouw, iphephandaba laseDashi, okungelinye ochungechungeni lwezihloko ezibika ngendlela oFakazi BakaJehova abasingatha ngayo ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane ngokocansi.  Chofoza lapha ukubona i-athikili yokuqala.

IPharadesi Lezinhlwathi

Indlela ofakazi bakaJehova abaphatha ngayo ukuhlukunyezwa iyadabukisa izisulu, ngokusho kophenyo lakwaTrouw. UMark (37) wahlukunyezwa esemncane futhi walwa ukuthi aqashelwe.

 I-Groningen 2010: UMark uthatha ifoni ngezandla ezimanzi. Usemotweni futhi umsakazo udlala ngokuthula. Ukhala ngumbonisi wesifunda uKlaas van de Belt, umbonisi wamabandla endawo. UMark, njengesisulu sokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, ubelokhu efuna ukuthola ubulungiswa kule minyaka edlule ye-15. Wayenele.

 Uma lokhu kungasebenzi, uzodela.

 Ucingo luyakhala. Namuhla, uKlaas wayezoba nengxoxo noWilbert, umsolwa. Ingxoxo enqumayo. Uthembise uMark ukuthi uzoncenga uWilbert ukuthi amxolise. Lokho kusho lukhulu kuMark. Ufuna ukushiya okwedlule. Ucindezela inkinobho yokurekhoda, ukuze alalele ucingo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

UMark: "Sawubona Klaas, lo nguMark."

UKlaas: “Sawubona Marku, sixoxe kamnandi. Isimo esihle nokuzimisela kusuka ohlangothini lukaWilbert. Kepha udinga usizo olwengeziwe. Ngakho-ke sizoqhubeka nalokho okwamanje. Ngakho-ke singaliqedela leli cala. ”

UMark: "Kulungile, kepha isikhathi sizoba yini?"

UKlaas: “Uxolo, angikwazi. Inhloso ukusebenza kanzima. ”

UMark: "Uzongazisa?"

UKlaas: “Yebo, nawe ubalulekile. Ngiyethemba ukuthi singakusiza. ”

UMark: "Kungakuhle lokho."

UKlaas: “Kepha elinye icala lidinga usizo. Lokhu sekusobala kakhulu namhlanje ntambama. ”

Ukudlala isikole

 Kuyinto i-1994, iminyaka engu-16 edlule. UMark uyi-15 futhi amamaki akhe esikoleni mubi kakhulu. Kusukela ekilasini le-biology mayelana nama-STDs, akakwazi ukulala ebusuku. Uyasaba ukuthi unesifo. Uma efika ekhaya ngemuva komhlangano uthi: “Mama, kufanele ngikutshele okuthile.”

Uchaza ngokwenzeka eminyakeni eyedlule ye6, ngenkathi indodana eneminyaka eyi-17 inhloko yebandla ibizoyiswa naye phezulu ngesikhathi sokufundwa kwebhayibheli ukuze "idlale isikole" noma "imfundele", ephethe iphepha lasendlini yangasese ngaphansi kwegama lakhe. ingalo. 

Iminyaka ye-3, ukusuka kuMarks 7th kuya kunyaka we-10th, uWilbert wayezovala amakhethini egumbini likaMark bese ekhiya umnyango. Phansi phansi amalungu ebandla ayefunda izwi likaJehova. Kuqale ngokushaya indlwabu, kusho uMark. Kepha kwahamba kancane.

Ukuhlukumezeka kwakukugculiseka kakhulu ngomlomo. Yilokho ayefuna ngikwenze kuye. Bekumele ngisuse futhi wayezothinta i-penis yami. Waxoxa ngemicabango yakhe yezocansi, ngowesifazane wasehholo ngokwesibonelo. Wasebenzisa udlame. Ungikhahlele, wanginqoba.

UWilbert, eneminyaka engu-17, wayeneminyaka engaphezu kwe-6 ft. Mude, kusho uMark. Ngabheka kuye.  Kungakho ngamlalela. Ngisewumfanyana ngangicabanga ukuthi: 'Lokhu kujwayelekile.' "Lokho esikwenzayo" akulungile ", yena, uWilbert, wayevame ukuthi. Lapho sekuphelile, wayethi, “Ngeke utshele muntu, ngoba uJehova uzothukuthela.”

Unina kaMark ulalele le ndaba. "Kufanele siye ophikweni lwamaphoyisa lobugebengu bocansi", esho. Kepha okokuqala utshela ubaba kaMark nabadala ebandleni 

Kofakazi bakaJehova, abadala bangumphenyi futhi bahlulela ngasikhathi sinye. Baphenya icala okungenzeka baliphatha ngaphakathi, uma kunobufakazi obanele. Babheka icala kuphela uma kunofakazi be-2 bokuhlukumezeka, noma sokuvuma. Uma kungenjalo, akukho okwenziwayo 

Abadala bathembisa ukuthi bazokhuluma noWilbert. Lapho behlangana naye ngokumangalelwa, uphika konke.  Ngenxa yokuthi uMarku ukuphela kofakazi, icala livaliwe.

Abadala noma abazali bakaMark abawufaki umbiko. Umama uthe, “Uma singaya emaphoyiseni kuzoba nezindatshana zezindaba nezihloko. Asifuni ukungcolisa igama lebandla lendawo. ”

Izimbambo ezintathu zokuguqa ngamadolo esiteji esingaphambili sehholo lombuso (igama lesonto lofakazi bakaJehova).  Sekuyizinyanga ze6 ngemuva kokuthi uMark atshele umama wakhe. UMark, ubaba wakhe noWilbert batshelwa ngabadala ukuba baphumele ngaphandle isikhashana ukuze bakhulume ngokuhlukumezeka.

Lapho uMark exoxa noWilbert ngalokhu kuhlukunyezwa, wenza sengathi kungukuphulula indlwabu. UMark ukhumbula ukutshelwa ngabadala ukuba bathethelele futhi bakhohlwe.  Uthola lokhu njengesabelo esingenakwenzeka. 

“Ngazizwa nginesizungu kakhulu. Angikwazi ukuyixoxa le ndaba yami kuphi. ”

Okwamphatha kabi kakhulu ukuthi omunye wabadala wabiza abahlukumezi ngokuthi umdlalo wezingane, wavele wazijikijela nje.

Eminyakeni elandelayo, uMark ulokhu ekhuluma nabadala. Wenza ucwaningo kwi-intanethi ukuthola imininingwane mayelana nokuthi oFakazi bawaphatha kanjani amacala okuhlukunyezwa. Wenza izethulo zePowerPoint azikhombisa abadala. "Abasebenzi", ngokusho kukaMark.

Okwamanje, uMark uthandana nentombazane ethile ebandleni. Bashada futhi babalekele eDelfzijl. UMark oneminyaka engu-23 oneminyaka engu-40 ubudala manje unesifo sokudangala. Akakwazi ukusebenza futhi kufanele akhonzwe. Ukuhlukumeza kuthatha imali.

Unquma ukuqala kabusha ukulwa futhi usondela ekuphathweni kwezwe koFakazi BakaJehova. Ku-2002, ubhala incwadi.  “Kungikhathaza kakhulu kangangokuba ngiphupha ngakho lapho ngilala. Ngikhathazeke kakhulu. ”Izincwadi ziyahamba ziye phambili, futhi futhi akukho lutho olwenzekayo ngokuxhumana, manje osezandleni zikaTrouw.

Justice

Lapho uMark, ngemuva kweminyaka yokwelashwa, enqoba ukudangala kwakhe, uyawaphonsa amacala — akunandaba. Wenze kakhulu ngoFakazi BakaJehova waze washiya inhlangano.

Kepha ngemuva konyaka we-1, iminyaka engu-30, uphindisela emuva eGroningen, bese izinkumbulo zibuya. Lapho, edolobheni, lapho kwenzeka konke lokho, unquma ukuthi uzolwela ubulungiswa futhi, abuyele kumbonisi wesifunda uKlaas van de Belt.

Ngo-Agasti 2009 UMark waba nengxoxo noKlaas kanye nabadala bebandla laseStadspark, lapho uWilbert asaya khona. Bathembisa ukuncenga uWilbert ukuthi amxolise. Uvele wavuma ngenhliziyo yonke lokho kuhlukunyezwa.

Entwasahlobo i-2010, uKlaas waba nengxoxo noWilbert, cishe iminyaka eyi-20 ngemuva kokuhlukumezeka. Njengamanje uMark ucabanga ukuthi, uma lokhu kungasebenzi, ngizowunikela umlo.

I-2010: izandla ezimanzi, emotweni, uKlaas ocingweni. Qopha, ingxoxo iyaqhubeka.

UMark: "Yini oyibonayo yenzeka ngokuzayo?"

UKlaas: “Ngicabanga ukuthi kuzoba khona impumelelo. Ukuzisola kuzokhonjiswa ngezinto ezingahambanga kahle. Iphuzu lelo, uMark kwesokudla. Ukuthi uyakuqonda okwenzekile. Inhloso ibikhona namhlanje ntambama. Akusizi ngalutho ukuxoxa ngokwengeziwe manje, kudingeka usizo olwengeziwe. ”

UMark: “Kulungile, kusobala lokho. Ngizolinda."

UKlaas: “Marku, kubonakala kukuhle, ngingakusho? Ngenxa yokuvuma kwakho ukukhuluma nathi futhi. Uma ukholelwa kuJehova.  Maka…. ngicela uqhubeke ukhonze uJehova.

(Ukuthula)

UMark: "Okwamanje, kuningi kakhulu okwenzekile."

Ngemuva kwengxoxo yocingo, uMark akathintwa isikhathi eside. Kuze kube yilapho ethola ucingo komunye wabadala. Ngeke futhi bathathe izinyathelo ngoWilbert ngoba uMark akazilandeli izimfuno zenhlangano.  Akaseyena ufakazi kaJehova. Lapho ebuya, bazothatha isinyathelo.

NgoJulayi 12, i-2010 Mark ithumela incwadi kuKlaas nakubadala. Ngeshwa, awungitshelanga ngezingxoxo noWilbert noma icala lami. Ngiyazi ukuthi abanye, njengabazali bami, bayabekezela. Kuyahlonishwa. Angisenaso ukubekezela. Ngizozihambela ngokwami.

UMark uyakwazi ukushiya okwedlule. Ucabanga ukuthi okuthile kufanele kuguquke ngokuyisisekelo enhlanganweni yoFakazi BakaJehova. Lesi isizathu esenza ukuthi alandise indaba yakhe. Kuyipharadesi lama-pedophiles.

Lezi zinsuku uWilbert uhlala ebhlokini eliseduze noMark. E-2015, bahlangana esitolo. UMark akabingeli uWilbert; umubheka nje. Ngemuva kwayo yonke le minyaka yokugwema ukumbheka, angambheka ngamehlo.

Uphenyo ngoFakazi BakaJehova

UTrouw uphenye kabanzi ngokuhlukumezeka phakathi kofakazi bakaJehova eHolland. Izolo Iphephandaba likhiphe izindaba ezimbili eziveza ukuthi le nhlangano ikuphatha kanjani ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi nemiphumela ebuhlungu kulabo abahlukunyeziwe. Amacala aphathwa endlini, ukuhlukunyezwa cishe akukaze kubikwe, ngokusho kwengxoxo nezisulu, amalungu ebekade engamalungu kanye nemibhalo ezandleni zikaTrouw. Ngokusho kwezisulu, abenzi bokubi bavikelekile. Kwakha indawo engaphephile kakhulu ezinganeni. Lokhu okutholakele kuhambelana nombiko weKhomishini yase-Australia owakhishwa ngoNovemba mayelana noFakazi BakaJehova.

UWilbert noMark bangamagama aqanjiwe, amagama abo ayaziwa kumhleli. UWilbert wenqabile ukuchaza uhlangothi lwakhe lwendaba, wabhala incwadi: “Izinto ezenzekile ziyazisola. Ngifuna ukushiya lokhu ngemuva kwami ​​futhi ngithemba ukuthi uzokuqonda. ”

Ubuholi bebandla laseGroningen abafuni ukudingida leli cala. Umbonisi wesifunda uKlaas van de Belt uthi usezame konke ukwenza uMark noWilbert ndawonye. Ukuxolisa kubaluleke kakhulu kosisulu. Uyazisola ukuthi uMark usehambile. Akafuni ukuxoxa ngemininingwane yecala. "Ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele uwaphathe kahle la macala, futhi kuhle uma kungenziwa ngaphakathi."

eyongeziwe

Le ndatshana yaqhudelwana ngosizo lwenqwaba yemibhalo, izincwadi kanye nezingxoxo nabantu be-20, okubandakanya izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, abadala be-4, abadala be-3 abasebenzayo, amalungu e-5 ex, amalungu okuhlukumeza kanye nochwepheshe.

Izindaba zezisulu zilandela amaphethini afanayo futhi zisekelwa imibhalo yangasese, ofakazi beqembu lesithathu nokuqoshwa komsindo manje osekuphethwe uTrouw. Ukuholwa njengoba kuchaziwe endatshaneni ye-intro kusekelwe encwadini yabadala eyimfihlo nezinkulungwane zezincwadi ezivela eNdikimbeni Ebusayo (i-echelon ephakeme kakhulu enhlanganweni) ezithunyelwe emabandleni endawo futhi lokhu kuqinisekisiwe yilabo ababandakanyekayo.