Ngaphambi kokuba singene kule vidiyo yokugqibela kuthotho lwethu lwabasetyhini, kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezinxulumene nevidiyo yangaphambili kubuntloko endifuna ukuxoxa ngokufutshane ngayo.
Idili yokuqala ijongene nokunye kokubuyela umva endikufumene kubabukeli abathile. La ngamadoda angavumelani kwaphela nembono yokuba kephalé kuthetha "umthombo" kunokuba "igunya phezu". Uninzi luye lwazibandakanya kuhlaselo lwe-hominem okanye lwanikela amabango angenasiseko ngokungathi ayinyani yevangeli. Emva kweminyaka ndikhulula iividiyo kwizihloko ezinempikiswano, ndiqhele olo hlobo lwempikiswano, ke ndithatha konke ukuhamba. Nangona kunjalo, inqaku endifuna ukulenza kukuba la manqaku awaveli nje kumadoda aziva esoyikiswa ngabafazi. Uyabona, ukuba kephalé kuthetha "umthombo", idala ingxaki kubantu abakholelwa kubathathu emnye abakholelwa ukuba uYesu nguThixo. Ukuba uYise ungumthombo woNyana, waye uNyana evela kuYise kanye njengokuba uAdam wayevela kuNyana noEva evela kuAdam. Oko kubeka uNyana kwindima engaphantsi kukaYise. Angathini uYesu ukuba nguThixo ukuba uvela kuThixo. Singadlala ngamagama, njengokuthi "wadala" ngokuchasene "nokuzalwa", kodwa ekugqibeleni njengokuba indalo ka-Eva yahlukile kweka-Adam, sisaphetha ngokuba umntu omnye athathwe komnye, ongahambelaniyo nembono kaBathathu Emnye.
Enye into endifuna ukuyichukumisa yintsingiselo ye-1 kwabaseKorinte 11:10. KwiNguqulelo Yehlabathi Elitsha, le ndinyana ifundeka ngolu hlobo: “Kungenxa yoko le nto umfazi efanele ukuba nomqondiso wegunya entlokweni yakhe, ngenxa yeengelosi.” (1 kwabaseKorinte 11:10)
Inguqulelo yamvanje yeNguqulelo Yehlabathi Elitsha ngeSpanish iya kude inyanzelise ukutolikwa kwengqondo. Endaweni "yomqondiso wegunya" ifundeka ngolu hlobo, "señal de subjección", eliguqulela "umqondiso wokuthobela".
Ngoku, kwi-interlinear, akukho gama lihambelana "nomqondiso we". Nantsi into eyithethayo.
IBerean Literal Bible ifundeka ngolu hlobo: “Ngenxa yoku, umfazi kufuneka abe negunya entloko, ngenxa yeengelosi.”
IKing James Bible ifundeka ngolu hlobo: "Ngenxa yesi sizathu umfazi ufanele ukuba abe namandla entloko ngenxa yeengelosi."
IThe World English Bible ifundeka ngolu hlobo: “Ngenxa yesi sizathu umfazi ufanele ukuba abe negunya entlokweni yakhe, ngenxa yeengelosi.”
Ke nokuba kuyamkeleka na ukuthi "uphawu lwegunya" okanye "umqondiso wegunya" okanye "uphawu lwegunya" njengoko ezinye iinguqulelo zisenza, intsingiselo ayicacanga njengokuba bendicinga njalo. Kwivesi yesi-5, uPawulos ubhala phantsi kwempefumlelo enika abafazi igunya lokuthandaza nokuprofeta kwaye ke bafundise ebandleni. Khumbula kwizifundo zethu zangaphambili ukuba amadoda aseKorinte ayezama ukuthatha le nto kanye kwabafazi. Ke, enye indlela yokuthatha le-kwaye anditsho ukuba le yivangeli, luvo nje olufanele ukuxoxwa-kukuba sithetha ngomqondiso wangaphandle wokuba abafazi banegunya lokuthandaza nokushumayela, hayi ukuba baphantsi kwegunya. Ukuba ungena kwindawo ethintelweyo kwisakhiwo sikarhulumente, udinga ipasi, ibheji eboniswe ngokucacileyo ukubonisa nabani na ukuba unegunya lokuba lapho. Igunya lokuthandaza nokufundisa ebandleni livela kuYesu kwaye libekwe kwabasetyhini nakumadoda, kwaye isigqubuthelo sentloko athetha ngaso uPawulos-nokuba sisikhafu okanye iinwele ezinde-luphawu lwelo lungelo, elo gunya.
Kwakhona, anditsho ukuba le yinyani, kuphela kukuba ndiyibona njengokucaciswa okunokwenzeka kwentsingiselo kaPawulos.
Ngoku masingene kumxholo wale vidiyo, le vidiyo yokugqibela kolu ngcelele. Ndingathanda ukuqala ngokubuza umbuzo kuwe:
Kwabase-Efese 5:33 sifunda ukuba, “Kodwa ke manithi nani ngabanye, elowo amthande umkakhe, njengoko azithanda ngako; umfazi ke makayoyike indoda.” Ke, nanku umbuzo: Kutheni le nto umfazi engaxelelwanga ukuba athande indoda yakhe njengoko izithanda yona? Kwaye kutheni indoda ingaxelelwanga ukuba ihloniphe umfazi wayo? Kulungile, yimibuzo emibini leyo. Kodwa eli cebo libonakala lingalingani, awuvumi?
Masishiye impendulo kule mibuzo mibini kude kube sekupheleni kwengxoxo yethu namhlanje.
Okwangoku, siza kubuya umva iivesi ezilishumi kwaye sifunde oku:
"Indoda iyintloko yomfazi" (Efese 5:23 NWT)
Uqonda ukuba kuthetha ntoni oko? Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba umyeni ngumphathi womfazi wakhe?
Unokucinga loo nto. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ivesi eyandulelayo ithi, “Abafazi mabathobele amadoda abo…” (Efese 5:22 NWT)
Kodwa ke, sinendinyana phambi kwale ithi, "Thobelanani ..." (kwabase-Efese 5:21 NWT)
Ke ngoko, ngubani umphathi xa amaqabane omtshato efanele ukuthobela omnye komnye?
Kwaye ke sinayo le:
“Umfazi akanagunya kowakhe umzimba, yindoda enalo; kwangokunjalo, nendoda ayilisebenzisi igunya emzimbeni wayo, kodwa ngumfazi wayo onalo. ” (1 KwabaseKorinte 7: 4)
Oko akuhambelani nombono wokuba umyeni abe ngumphathi kwaye umfazi ibe nguye ophetheyo.
Ukuba ukufumanisa konke oku kuyindida, ngokuyinxenye ndibekek 'ityala. Uyabona, ndishiye into ebalulekileyo. Masiyibize ngelayisensi yobugcisa. Kodwa ndiza kuyilungisa ngoku. Siza kuqala kumqolo wama-21 kwisahluko 5 sabase-Efese.
Ukusuka kwiBerean Study Bible:
“Thobelanani ngokoyika uKristu.”
Abanye bathatha indawo "uloyiko" endaweni yentlonipho.
- “… Thobelani omnye komnye ngokoyika uKrestu”. (IBHAYIBHILE)
- “Nilulamelana ngokoyika uKristu.” (IHolman Christian Standard Bible)
Igama liyi-phobos apho sifumana khona igama lethu lesiNgesi, phobia, oloyiko olungenangqondo lwento ethile.
- acrophobia, uloyiko lweendawo eziphakamileyo
- arachnophobia, uloyiko lwezigcawu
- i-claustrophobia, ukoyika indawo ezixineneyo okanye ezixineneyo
- ophidiophobia, ukoyika iinyoka
Umama wayekhathazwa ngulo wokugqibela. Uya kuhamba xa ejongene nenyoka.
Nangona kunjalo, akufuneki sicinge ukuba igama lesiGrike linxulumene noloyiko olungenangqondo. Ngokuchasene noko. Ibhekisa kuloyiko olunentlonelo. Asimoyiki uKristu. Simthanda kakhulu, kodwa siyoyika ukungamkholisi. Asifuni ukumdanisa, andibi kunjalo? Ngoba? Kuba uthando lwethu ngaye lusibangela ukuba sihlale sinqwenela ukufumana ubabalo emehlweni akhe.
Ke ngoko, siyathobelana ebandleni, nasemtshatweni ngenxa yentlonipho, uthando lwethu ngoYesu Krestu.
Ke, kanye ngaphandle kwebat siqala ngekhonkco kuYesu. Oko sikufundayo kwezi ndinyana zilandelayo kuhambelana ngqo nolwalamano lwethu neNkosi kunye nolwalamano lwayo nathi.
UPaul sele eza kusinika indlela entsha yokujonga ubudlelwane bethu nabanye abantu kunye neqabane lethu lomtshato, kwaye ke ukunqanda ukungaqondani, usinika umzekelo wendlela olu lwalamano lusebenza ngayo. Usebenzisa into esiyiqondayo, ukusinceda ukuba siqonde into entsha, eyahlukileyo kuleyo sele siqhelile.
Kulungile, ivesi elandelayo:
“Bafazi, wathobeleni amadoda enu ngokungathi niyenzela iNkosi.” (Efese 5: 22) iBerean Study Bible ngeli xesha.
Ke, asinokwazi ukuthi, "ibhayibhile ithi abafazi mabathobele amadoda", akunjalo? Kuya kufuneka sikufanelekele, akunjalo? "Ngokuphathelene neNkosi", itsho. Abafazi abathobelayo kufuneka babonise emadodeni ukufana nokuzithoba kwethu sonke kuYesu.
Ivesi elandelayo:
"Kuba indoda iyintloko yomfazi njengokuba noKrestu eyintloko yebandla, umzimba waKhe, onguMsindisi wawo." (Kwabase-Efese 5:23 BSB)
UPawulos uyaqhubeka nokusebenzisa ubudlelwane uYesu anabo nebandla ukucacisa uhlobo lwendibano indoda ekufuneka ibenayo emfazini wayo. Uqinisekisa ukuba asizukuzihambela ngokwethu ngokuchaza kwakho ubudlelwane bomyeni / bomfazi. Ufuna ukuyibophelela kwinto ekhoyo phakathi kweNkosi yethu nomzimba wecawe. Kwaye usikhumbuza ukuba ubudlelwane bukaYesu necawa bumbandakanya ukuba ngumsindisi walo.
Ngoku siyazi kwividiyo yethu yokugqibela ukuba igama elithi "intloko" ngesiGrike kephalé kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba negunya komnye. Ukuba uPawulos wayethetha ngendoda enegunya emfazini noKristu onegunya phezu kwebandla, ngewayengazange alisebenzise kephalé. Endaweni yoko, ngewayesebenzise igama elithi exousia oko kukuthi igunya.
Khumbula, sifunda nje kwiyoku-1 kwabaseKorinte 7: 4 ethetha ngomfazi onegunya emzimbeni wendoda yakhe, kungenjalo. Apho asifumani kephalé (intloko) kodwa indlela yesenzi exousia, "Igunya phezu".
Kodwa apha e-Efese, uPawulos usebenzisa kephalé apho amaGrike asebenzise isikweko ukuthetha "phezulu, isithsaba, okanye umthombo".
Ngoku makhe sihlale kuloo nto okomzuzwana. Uthi "uKristu uyintloko yebandla, umzimba wakhe". Ibandla okanye icawe ngumzimba kaKristu. Yintloko ehleli ngaphezulu komzimba. UPawulos usifundisa kaninzi ukuba umzimba wenziwe ngamalungu amaninzi axabisekileyo ngokulinganayo, nangona ahluke kakhulu kwelinye. Ukuba ilungu elinye liyabandezeleka, umzimba uphela uyabandezeleka. Khubaza uzwane lwakho okanye ubethe umunwe wakho omncinci ngesando kwaye uyazi ukuba kuthetha ntoni kuwo wonke umzimba.
UPawulos wenza lo mzekeliso wamalungu ebandla afana namalungu ohlukeneyo omzimba ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Uyisebenzisa xa ebhalela abaseRoma, abaseKorinte, abase-Efese, abaseGalati, nabaseKolose. Ngoba? Ukwenza inqaku elingaqondakali lula ngabantu abazelwe nabakhulele kwiinkqubo zikarhulumente ezibeka amanqanaba amaninzi egunya nolawulo kumntu ngamnye. Icawe ayifanelanga ukuba njalo.
UYesu nomzimba webandla banye. (UYohane 17: 20-22)
Ngoku wena, njengelungu lalo mzimba, uziva njani? Ngaba uvakalelwa kukuba uYesu ufuna izinto ezininzi kakhulu kuwe? Ngaba ucinga ukuba uYesu ungumphathi onentliziyo elukhuni ozikhathalele yena yedwa? Okanye uziva ukhathalelwe kwaye ukhuselekile? Ngaba ucinga ukuba uYesu wayezimisele ukukufela? Njengomntu ochithe ubomi bakhe, engakhonzwa ngabanye, kodwa ezibhokoxa elungiselela umhlambi wakhe?
Ngoku nina madoda ninokuqonda kokulindeleke kuni njengentloko yomfazi.
Akunje ngokuba ufumana ukwenza imigaqo. UYesu wasixelela ukuba "andenzi nto ngokwam, kodwa ndithetha kanye njengoko wandifundisayo uBawo." (Yohane 8:28)
Oku kulandela ukuba amadoda kufuneka axelise loo mzekelo kwaye angenzi nto ngegunya lawo kodwa asekwe kuphela koko sikufundiswe nguThixo.
Ivesi elandelayo:
"Ngoku njengokuba ibandla lithobela uKristu, ngokunjalo nabafazi mabathobele amadoda abo kuyo yonke into." (Kwabase-Efese 5:24 BSB)
Kwakhona, uthelekiso lwenziwa phakathi kwecawa noKristu. Umfazi akasayi kuba nangxaki ekuthobeleni umyeni wakhe ukuba uyintloko kaKristu phezu kwebandla.
Kodwa uPawulos akagqibanga ukucacisa. Uyaqhubeka:
“Madoda, bathandeni abafazi benu, njengokuba naye uKristu walithandayo ibandla, wazinikela ngenxa yakhe, ukuba alingcwalise, elihlambulule ngokuhlamba kwamanzi ngelizwi, nimnikele kuye njengebandla elizukileyo, lingenabala okanye mibimbi, nasiphi na isiphako, kodwa singcwele kwaye asinasiphako. ” (Kwabase-Efese 5:24 BSB)
Kwangokunjalo, indoda iya kufuna ukumthanda umfazi wayo kwaye izinikele ngenjongo yokumngcwalisa, ukuze iwuzise kwihlabathi elizukileyo, elingenabala, elingenamibimbi, nengenasiphako, kodwa lingcwele kwaye lingenakusoleka.
Amagama amnandi, avakalayo aphezulu, kodwa umyeni angathemba njani ukufeza oku ngendlela ebonakalayo kwihlabathi lanamhlanje nazo zonke iingxaki esijamelana nazo?
Ndivumele ndizame ukuyicacisa loo nto ngento endakha ndayifumana ebomini bam.
Umfazi wam ongasekhoyo wayethanda ukudanisa. Mna, njengamadoda amaninzi, ndandonqena ukungena kumgangatho wokudanisa. Ndaziva ndikhangeleka ndingenantlonelo kuba ndingazi ukuba ndingahamba njani kakuhle emculweni. Nangona kunjalo, xa sinemali, sagqiba ekubeni sithathe izifundo zomdaniso. Kwiklasi yethu yokuqala uninzi lwabafazi, umyaleli waqala ngokuthi, “Ndizakuqala namadoda eqeleni kuba kaloku indoda iyakhokela”, apho umfundi ongumfazi osemncinci waqhankqalaza, “Kutheni le nto indoda kufuneka ukukhokela? ”
Into eyandothusayo kukuba bonke abanye abafazi kweliqela bamhleka. Into ehlwempuzekileyo yayibonakala ihlazekile. Ukumothusa kwakhe kubonakala ukuba akafumananga nkxaso kwamanye amabhinqa eqela. Njengoko ndandifunda ngakumbi nangakumbi malunga nokudanisa, ndaqala ukubona ukuba kutheni le nto yayinjalo, ndaza ndabona ukuba ukudanisa ngebhola yomzekeliso sisikweko esilungileyo kubudlelwane bendoda / obomfazi emtshatweni.
Nanku umfanekiso wokhuphiswano lwegumbi lokudlala ibhola. Uqaphela ntoni? Bonke abafazi banxibe imiwunduzo enobuqaqawuli, elowo nalowo wahlukile; ngelixa onke amadoda enxibe okweephengwini, ngokufanayo. Kungenxa yokuba yindima yendoda ukubonisa umfazi. Ngoyena kugxilwe kuye. Unomboniso, ukuhamba okunzima ngakumbi.
Wathini uPawulos ngoKristu nebandla? Ndikhetha uguqulelo olunikwe ivesi 27 yiNew International Version, "ukumenza abe yicawe ekhazimlayo, engenabala okanye mibimbi okanye nasiphina isiphako, kodwa esingcwele nesingenasiphako."
Injalo indima yendoda emfazini wayo emtshatweni. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba isizathu sokuba abasetyhini bengenangxaki ngombono wamadoda akhokelela kumgangatho wokudanisa kukuba bayaqonda ukuba ukudanisa akukho malunga nolawulo. Imalunga nentsebenziswano. Abantu ababini bahamba kunye ngenjongo yokuvelisa ubugcisa-into entle ukuba ibonwe.
Nantsi indlela esebenza ngayo:
Okokuqala, awenzi amanyathelo okudanisa kubhabho. Kufuneka uzifunde. Omnye umntu uyile. Kukho amanyathelo kuhlobo ngalunye lomculo. Kukho amanyathelo okudanisa umculo weWaltz, kodwa amanyathelo ahlukeneyo eFox Trot, okanye iTango, okanye iSalsa. Uhlobo ngalunye lomculo lufuna amanyathelo ahlukeneyo.
Ngeke wazi ukuba ibhendi okanye i-DJ izakudlala ntoni ngokulandelayo, kodwa ulungile, kuba ulifundile inyathelo kuwo wonke umdaniso. Ebomini, ngekhe uyazi into eza kulandela; mculo mni oza kudlalwa. Kufuneka sijongane nemiceli mngeni emininzi emtshatweni: ukujikwa kwezemali, iingxaki zempilo, intlekele yosapho, abantwana… njalo njalo. Siziphatha njani zonke ezi zinto? Ngawaphi amanyathelo esiwathathayo ukujongana nawo ngendlela ezisa uzuko emtshatweni wethu? Asizenzi ngokwethu amanyathelo. Umntu othile uzenzele thina. KumKristu, loo mntu unguBawo oye wazazisa zonke ezi zinto ngonyana wakhe uYesu Krestu. Omabini amaqabane omdaniso ayawazi amanyathelo. Kodwa leliphi inyathelo lokuthatha ngalo naliphi na ixesha elinikezelweyo kuxhomekeke kuloo ndoda.
Xa indoda ikhokela kumgangatho wokudanisa, uxelela njani umfazi ukuba leliphi inyathelo abaza kulenza ngokulandelayo? Ukubuyela umva okusisiseko, okanye ilitye lasekhohlo, okanye ukuqhubela phambili, okanye uhambo oluphambili, okanye ukujikajika ngengalo? Wazi njani oko?
Ukwenza konke oku ngeendlela ezifihlakeleyo zonxibelelwano. Unxibelelwano ngoyena ndoqo wentsebenziswano yokudanisa enempumelelo nanjengoko ingundoqo kumtshato ophumelelayo.
Into yokuqala abayifundisa amadoda akwiklasi yokudanisa sisakhelo somdaniso. Ingalo yasekunene yendoda yenza isangqa ngesandla sayo siphumle kumqolo womfazi kwinqanaba legxalaba. Ngoku umfazi uya kuphumlisa ingalo yakhe yasekhohlo ngaphezulu kwasekunene ngesandla sakhe egxalabeni. Isitshixo kukuba indoda igcine ingalo yayo iqinile. Xa umzimba wakhe ujika, ingalo yakhe iyajika nayo. Ayinakuhlala ngasemva, kuba kukuhamba kwengalo yakhe okukhokelela emfazini kumanqwanqwa. Umzekelo, ukuphepha ukumnyathela, uyangqika kuye ngaphambi kokuphakamisa unyawo. Uyangqiyama ngaphambili, emva koko anyathele. Uhlala ekhokelela ngonyawo lwasekhohlo, ke xa evakalelwa kukuba uncike phambili, ngoko nangoko uyazi ukuba kufuneka aphakamise unyawo lwasekunene emva koko abuye umva. Kwaye yiyo yonke into ekhoyo kuyo.
Ukuba akaziva ukuba uyahamba-ukuba uhambisa unyawo, kodwa hayi umzimba wakhe-uya kunyathela. Ayisiyonto intle leyo.
Ke, unxibelelwano olomeleleyo kodwa olunobulali olona sitshixo. Umfazi kufuneka azi ukuba yintoni indoda enqwenela ukuyenza. Ke, kusemtshatweni. Umfazi uyafuna kwaye ufuna ukunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo neqabane lakhe. Ufuna ukwazi ingqondo yakhe, aqonde indlela avakalelwa ngayo ngezinto. Emdudweni, ufuna ukuhamba kunye. Ebomini, ufuna ukucinga nokwenza njengomntu omnye. Kulapho ubuhle bomtshato bulele khona. Oko kuza kuphela nexesha kunye nokuziqhelanisa nexesha elide kunye neempazamo ezininzi-iinyawo ezininzi ezinyathela.
Indoda ayixeleli umfazi into amakayenze. Akayena umphathi wakhe. Unxibelelana naye ngoko ke uziva ngathi.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba uYesu ufuna ntoni kuwe? Ewe, kuba usixelele ngokucacileyo, kwaye nangaphezulu usibekele umzekelo.
Ngoku ngokokujonga komfazi, kufuneka asebenzele ukuthwala ubunzima bakhe. Kumdaniso, ubeka ingalo yakhe kuye kancinci. Injongo kukunxibelelana nonxibelelwano. Ukuba ubeka ubunzima bengalo yakhe kuye, uya kudinwa ngokukhawuleza, nengalo yakhe iya kuwa. Nangona besebenza bebodwa, nganye ithwala ubunzima bayo.
Kumdaniso, kuhlala kukho iqabane elinye elifunda ngokukhawuleza kunelinye. Umfazi onesakhono sokudanisa uya kunceda iqabane lakhe ukuba lifunde amanyathelo amatsha kunye neendlela ezingcono zokukhokela, ukunxibelelana. Indoda enobuchule yokudanisa ayizukukhokelela iqabane layo kumanyathelo engekawafundi. Khumbula, injongo kukuvelisa ulungelelwaniso oluhle kumgangatho wokudanisa, ungahlazisani. Nantoni na eyenza elinye iqabane libukeke libi, lenza ukuba bobabini bajongeke kakubi.
Kumdaniso, awukhuphisani neqabane lakho. Usebenzisana naye okanye naye. Niphumelela kunye okanye niyaphulukana kunye.
Oku kusizisa kulo mbuzo ndiwuphakamisileyo ekuqaleni. Kutheni indoda ixelelwa ukuba imthande umfazi wayo njengoko izithanda yona hayi enye indlela? Kutheni le nto umfazi exelelwa ukuba ahloniphe indoda yakhe hayi enye indlela? Ndibeka kuwe ukuba le vesi isixelela yona yinto enye evela kwiimbono ezimbini ezahlukeneyo.
Ukuba uva umntu esithi, "ngekhe uphinde undixelele ukuba uyandithanda." Ngaba unokucinga kwangoko ukuba uva indoda ithetha okanye umfazi?
Sukulindela ukuba inkosikazi yakho iqonde ukuba uyamthanda ngaphandle kokuba uyakuqinisa oko ngonxibelelwano oluvulekileyo. Mxelele ukuba uyamthanda kwaye umbonise ukuba uyamthanda. Izimbo zomzimba ezinkulu zihlala zingabalulekanga kuninzi oluninzi oluphindaphindwayo. Ungadanisa wonke umdaniso ngamanyathelo ambalwa asisiseko, kodwa uxelela umhlaba ukuba uziva njani ngokubonisa iqabane lakho lokudanisa, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, umbonisa indlela oziva ngayo ngaye. Fumana indlela yonke imihla yokubonisa ukuba uyamthanda njengokuba uzithanda.
Ngokubhekisele kwinxalenye yesibini yale vesi malunga nokubonisa intlonipho, ndivile kusithiwa yonke into eyenziwa nguFred Astaire, uGinger Rogers naye uyenzile, kodwa kwizithende eziphakamileyo kwaye ebuyela umva. Kungenxa yokuba kukhuphiswano lomdaniso, esi sibini siza kuphulukana namanqaku okuma ukuba asijonganga nendlela elungileyo. Qaphela ukuba indoda ijonge indlela ezihamba ngayo kuba kufuneka iphephe ukungqubana. Umfazi, nangona kunjalo, ujonga apho bebekhona. Uhambela ngasemva engaboni. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka athembele ngokupheleleyo kwiqabane lakhe.
Nantsi imeko: Isibini esisandul 'ukutshata sinesinki evuzayo. Umyeni uphangela phantsi kunye neentsontelo zakhe kwaye umfazi umi ecinga, "Ah, angenza nantoni na." Flash phambili iminyaka embalwa. Imeko efanayo. Umyeni uphantsi kwesinki uzama ukulungisa ukuvuza. Inkosikazi ithi, "Mhlawumbi singabiza umntu olungisa imibhobho yamanzi."
Njengemela entliziyweni.
Kumadoda, uthando lumalunga nentlonipho. Ndibonile abafazi besebenza kwinto ethile, xa elinye ibhinqa liza kwiqela kwaye linikezela ngengcebiso malunga nendlela yokwenza ngcono le nto. Bayamamela kwaye bayalixabisa ingcebiso. Kodwa awuyiboni kangako emadodeni. Ukuba ndingena kumhlobo wam ndisenza into kwaye ndinike iingcebiso kwangoko, isenokungahambi kakuhle. Andimbonisi mbeko. Andimbonisi ukuba ndiyayithemba le nto ayenzayo. Ngoku, ukuba ucela ingcebiso, undixelela ukuba uyandihlonipha, uyalihlonipha icebo lam. Yile ndlela amadoda adibana ngayo.
Ke, xa ama-Efese 5:33 exelela abafazi ukuba bahloniphe abayeni babo, iyathetha into enye ithi kumadoda. Isitsho ukuba kufuneka umthande umyeni wakho, kodwa ikuxelela indlela yokubonisa olo thando ngendlela eya kuqondwa yindoda.
Xa mna nomfazi wam ongasekhoyo sasisiya kudanisa, sasidla ngokuba kumgangatho wokudanisa oxineneyo. Kuya kufuneka ndikulungele ukutshintsha ndiye kwinqanaba elahlukileyo ukunqanda ukungqubana, ngesaziso somzuzwana ngamanye amaxesha. Ngamanye amaxesha, kuye kufuneke ndibuye umva, kodwa emva koko ndiye ndibuye umva kwaye ndingaboni kwaye ajonge. Isenokusibona malunga nokudibana nesinye isibini kwaye sibuye umva. Ndiva uluvo lwakhe kwaye ndiyazi ukuyeka okanye ukutshintsha ukuya kwelinye inyathelo kwangoko. Olo nxibelelwano lufihlakeleyo luyindlela emibini. Andityhali, anditsali. Ndihamba nje kwaye naye uyalandela, ngokulandelelana.
Kwenzeka ntoni xa ungqubana, okwenzeka amaxesha ngamaxesha. Ungqubana nesinye isibini wawa? Imikhwa efanelekileyo ifuna ukuba indoda isebenzise isininzi sayo ukujija ukuze iphantsi ukuqinisa ukuwa komfazi. Kwakhona, uYesu wazincama ngenxa yebandla. Indoda kufuneka ikulungele ukuthatha ukuwa komfazi.
Njengomyeni okanye inkosikazi, ukuba ukhe ube nexhala lokuba awuyenzi into ekufuneka uyenzile ukuze umtshato usebenze, jonga umzekelo uPawulos asinika wona ngoKristu kunye nebandla. Fumana ukufana apho nemeko yakho, kwaye uya kubona indlela yokulungisa ingxaki.
Ndiyathemba ukuba oku kuyakucoca okunye ukudideka ngobuntloko. Bendi bonisa inani lezimvo zam ezisekwe kumava kunye nokuqonda kwam. Ndizibandakanye kwizinto ezithile apha. Nceda uqonde ukuba ezi ziingcebiso. Thatha okanye ubashiye, njengoko ubona kufanelekile.
Enkosi ngokubukela. Oku kugqiba uthotho ngendima yabasetyhini. Jonga ividiyo evela kuJames Penton ngokulandelayo, kwaye emva koko ndiza kungena kumxholo wobume bukaYesu nombuzo kaBathathu Emnye. Ukuba ungathanda ukundinceda ndiqhubeke, kukho ikhonkco kwinkcazo yale vidiyo ukuququzelela iminikelo.
En relisant aujourd'hui les paroles du Christ aux amabandla asixhenxe, ndiyayithanda into endiza kuyenza ngenxa yokuba ndibhengeza ukuhlangana kwabantu ababhinqileyo. A la congrégation de Thyatire Révélation 7: 2 dit "Toutefois, voici ce que je te reproche: c'est que tu tolères cette femme, cette Jézabel, qui se dit PROPHETESSE; Elle ENSEIGNE et égare mes esclaves,… ”Kufuneka unike ilungelo lokuba umntu abe ngumfazi kwaye enze isigqibo sokuhlangana. C'était donc habituel. Est Christ que Christ reproche à Izabel d'enseigner EN TANT QUE FEMME? Ayikho. Il lui reproche “d'enseigner et égarer mes esclaves,... Funda ngokugqithisileyo "
Inqaku elihle, uFani. Enkosi.
Molo Eric. Esi sisiphelo esihle soluhlu lwakho "Abasetyhini ebandleni". Kwinxalenye yokuqala ubonise uhlalutyo oluhle lwe-Efese 5: 21-24. Kwaye-ke intle umzekeliso "wokudanisa ngomtshato". Zininzi iingcinga ezintle apha - “Asizenzi ngokwethu amanyathelo” - “Unxibelelwano olumnandi oluphambili” - “Nangona besebenza bebodwa, elowo uthwala ubunzima bakhe” - “Niphumelela kunye okanye niyaphulukana "-" uyambonisa indlela oziva ngayo ngaye "-" Olo nxibelelwano lufihlakeleyo luyindlela yabantu ababini "nabanye. Kwaye usebenzise izifaniso ezintle "zokudanisa", enkosi kakhulu.... Funda ngokugqithisileyo "
Enkosi, Frankie. ?
Unxibelelwano, amagama kunye nentsingiselo yazo sisihloko esijongayo. Amagama afanayo athethwe ngethoni eyahlukileyo, umxholo, kumntu owahlukileyo wesini esahlukileyo unokudlulisa okanye ukuqondwa ngendlela eyahluke ngokupheleleyo kuleyo bekucetyiwe. Yongeza kumxube wangaphambili wokukhetha, ukukhetha kunye ne-ajenda kwaye ungafika kwisiphelo sokulungela nantoni na. Ndicinga ukuba uEric ubonakalisile ukusuka kwinani lee-engile esebenzisa imigca emininzi yokuqiqa kwibhayibhile kunye nokuqiqa ukucacisa ukuya kwinqanaba elinokubakho lokuba imbono yesiko labafazi kwiCawa yamaKristu ayisiyombono... Funda ngokugqithisileyo "
UMerci Eric uthele i-cette très belle série. J'ai appris beaucoup de choses et ces éclaircissements me paraissent conformes à l'esprit de Christ, à l'esprit de Dieu, à l'uniformité du message biblique. Les paroles de Paul était pour moi d'une incompréhension totale. U-Après plus de 40 ans de mariage je suis d'accord avec tout ce que tu as dit. Merveilleuse uthelekiso lobudlelwane homme / femme avec la danse. Hébreux 13: 4 “Que le mariage soit HONORÉ de tous” Hlonipha: ixabiso elikhulu, iiprincess, ik… I-grande valeur de ce terme "honorez" is mise en valeur quand on sait qu'on doit... Funda ngokugqithisileyo "
Ndifuna ukukhumbula iiposos ezijolise kuzo, uNicole.
Ewe, kufuneka ndivumelane neLondon18. Kuloo mfanekiso, umfazi wakho ufana ngokumangalisayo noSusan Sarandon. Umfanekiso omhle uEric. Enkosi ngokuzisa ama-Efese 5:25. Esinye sezibhalo endizithandayo
Ukonwabele uthotho lwakho kwindima yabasetyhini! Wenze kakuhle! Ndonwabele ngakumbi ulungelelwaniso lomdaniso we-ballroom emtshatweni. Wowu, umfazi wakho wayemhle! Wayejongeka njengoSusan Sarandon !!!
Ewe, wayemhle kakhulu.
Umfazi wam wayengenamfanekiso. Ngokukhawuleza xa ukhombe ikhamera kuye, wayeya kuba ngumkhenkce kwindawo engathandekiyo. Ukufumana olo dubulo, bendineelensi zemfonomfono ezingama-500mm. Ndandikude kangangokuba wayengazi ukuba ndibetha umpu, kwaye ke ndamfumana kwimeko yendalo.
Umfazi wakho ubenethamsanqa lokuba nomntu onobubele nothando, kwaye ulumke njengawe.
Wayenobubele, enothando kwaye elumkile, kodwa enkosi.
Uthozamile :-)