Settle Differences in a Spirit of Love

– posted by meleti

[From ws4/16 p. 3 for June 27-July 2]


“Keep peace with one another.”—Mark 9:50


The purpose of these reviews is to ensure that the Watchtower reader is aware when the publication is straying from Scriptural truth.  Sometimes that requires a paragraph-by-paragraph analysis of the study article, while other times we only need concentrate on the one portion where clarification is called for.

This week’s study has a lot of fine counsel on settling differences between brothers.  The one point of divergence occurs when the article tries to explain Matthew 18:15-17.

(For a full discussion of judicial procedures including Matthew 18,
see "Be Modest in Walking with God" and the followup article.)


Under the subtitle, “Should You Involve the Elders?”, the article applies Matthew 18:15-17 exclusively to:

“…(1) a sin that could be settled between the individuals concerned but…was also (2) a sin serious enough to merit disfellowshipping if not settled. Such sins might involve a measure of fraud or might include damaging a person’s reputation through slander.” – Par. 14


What makes this JW interpretation remarkable is that it pays no heed to the fact that this is the only counsel Jesus gives the congregation on how to handle sinners in our midst.  Thus, the Organization’s teaching leaves us to conclude that Jesus was so concerned about our getting along that he gave us a three-step procedure to follow when they go awry, yet when it comes to protecting the congregation from such sins as adultery, fornication, sectarianism, idolatry, rape, child abuse, and murder, he had nothing to say?!

The fact is Jesus provides no qualification as to the type of sin he’s referring to.  Therefore, when he says “sin”, we have no basis to qualify it either.  We must accept it at face value. Anything that qualifies as sin in the Bible is to be handled in this way.

When Jesus spoke the words recorded at Matthew chapter 18, his disciples were all Jews.  Jews had the Law code which accurately cataloged sinful acts.  (Ro 3:20)  So no further explanation was needed.  However, when gentiles came into the congregation, things such as idolatry and fornication were common practice and not viewed as sinful.  So the Christian Bible writers provided them with the knowledge they needed to apply Matthew 18:15-17 within the congregation.  (Ga 5:19-21)

Paragraph 14 concludes with the following categorical statement, but fails to provide even a single reference from the Bible to back it up:

“The offense did not include such a sin as adultery, homosexuality, apostasy, idolatry, or some other gross sin definitely requiring the attention of the congregation elders.” – Par. 14


Why do you think the Organization would make this unscriptural distinction?

You will notice that Jesus makes no mention of elders or older men at all. He just says that if steps 1 and 2 fail, the congregation gets involved.  This would include the older men, of course, as they are part of the congregation.  It would also include the older women, and indeed all. All need to be involved at the third phase of this procedure.  Nevertheless, before getting to phase 3, should there be a genuine manifestation of repentance, the matter can be resolved at either the first or second phase of this procedure.  That would apply for all sin, including fornication or idolatry.  The matter is put to rest without any report being made to the elders.  Jesus imposed no such reporting requirement upon us.

This doesn’t support the idea of a top-down ecclesiastical hierarchy governing the lives of Christians.  If the rule of man is what a religion is about—and all organized religion is about the rule of man—then sins have to be handled by the powers that be.  That is why the Organization would have us believe that we cannot gain God’s forgiveness on our own, but must make confession to the elders, even for what they call “hidden sins”.

Though it would pain Witnesses to admit it, this is simply a variation of the Catholic confessional.  In the case of Catholics, there is some degree of anonymity and only one man is involved, while with Jehovah’s Witnesses, three are involved and all details must be revealed.  A witness would counter that it’s not the same because Catholics believe that a priest can forgive sins, while the Bible teaches that only God can forgive sins, so elders are merely determining whether an individual should remain in the congregation.

The truth of the matter is our own publications contradict this notion.

“Hence, any forgiving or not forgiving on the part of the elders would be in the sense of Jesus’ words at Matthew 18:18: “Truly I say to you men, Whatever things you may bind on earth will be things bound in heaven, and whatever things you may loose on earth will be things loosed in heaven.” Their actions would simply reflect Jehovah’s view of matters as presented in the Bible.” (w96 4/15 p. 29 Questions From Readers)


This quotes the very next verse following the three-step process.  Does Matthew 18:18 speak of forgiving the sin?  Only Jehovah forgives the sin.  What the brother or sister is looking for at step 1 of the process is whether the sinner is repentant—“if he listens to you”.  Jesus says nothing about the sinner getting forgiveness from those he is listening to.  Matthew 18:18 refers to the decision whether or not to continue to accept the sinner as a brother.  So it has to do with recognizing his repentance and that he has stopped sinning.  If not, then we move through the process until step 3 is reached, at which point, if he is still not listening to us, we consider him to be as a man of the nations.

As for forgiveness, only God can grant that.

This may seem like a subtle distinction, but when we fail to make such distinctions, we lay the foundation for a deviation from the righteous norm.  We create, as it were, a fork in the road.

Excluding most sin from the Matthew 18 procedure requires the elders to then get involved whenever sin is committed.  If someone sins, they have to get the elders "Okay" before they can consider themselves to be forgiven by God.  As evidence of this mindset, consider this excerpt:

“Yet what if a close friend tells us that he has committed a gross sin but wants us to keep it secret? The soul-searching talk “Do Not Share in the Sins of Others” stressed the need to be loyal to Jehovah and his organization. If we are unable to persuade our conscience-stricken friend to confess to the elders, we should go to them about the matter. “(w85 1/15 p. 26 “Kingdom Increase” Conventions—What Rich Spiritual Feasts!)


There is no qualification of time here, only that it is a single sin, “a gross sin”.  So it follows that a sin has been committed and has not been repeated.  Let’s say the brother got drunk one night and had sex with a prostitute.  Let’s say a year has passed.  According to this, you still must encourage him “to confess to the elders”.  You are to forgo Matthew 18:15 which clearly provides a means to protect the privacy and reputation of the individual while ensuring the safety of the congregation.  No, you must involve the elders, though there is no Scriptural direction to do so.  If you do not, you are being disloyal, not only to Jehovah, but to the Organization.

You are required to act as an informant, reporting all sin to the elders, or you are being disloyal to the organization.

Such unscriptural instruction can have a profound effect on the individual.   When I was serving as the congregation coordinator, I had an elder come to me to confess that he had looked at pornography, specifically Playboy magazines, 20 years in the past!  He was guilt-ridden because of a part on pornography at the recent Elders school.  I asked him if he’d asked for Jehovah’s forgiveness back then and he said he had.  Yet, that was not enough.  He still felt guilty because he had never asked for and received forgiveness from the elders.  It was obvious that God’s forgiveness was insufficient to assuage his conscience. He needed the forgiveness of men. This was a direct result of the mentality inculcated into Jehovah’s Witnesses through numerous articles on this subject, such as the one we are now considering.

There is simply no provision within the organization of Jehovah’s Witnesses for a brother or sister to stop sinning and pray to Jehovah for forgiveness and leave it at that.  He or she must also confess the sin before the elders who will then decide whether or not to allow the individual to remain in the congregation.

What about Crimes?


How can we apply Matthew 18:15-17 when the sin involves a crime like rape or child abuse? Surely such things cannot be resolved at the step 1 level?

We must make a distinction between crimes and sins.  In the case of rape and child abuse, both are sins, but they are also crimes.  Based on Romans 13:1-7, crimes are not to be handled by the congregation, but by the civil authorities which are God’s minister for executing justice.  So one would report such crimes at which point they would become public knowledge and the relative anonymity afforded by step 1 would go away so that the congregation would come to know of the sin and become involved.  Still, it is up the whole congregation—not a committee of three men meeting in secret—to deal with such sins, while cooperating with the civil authorities as they deal with the crime.

You can imagine that had we properly applied Matthew 18:15-17 together with Romans 13:1-7 when the sin/crime of child abuse occurred in the congregation, we would not be enduring the scandals that now plague the Organization of Jehovah’s Witnesses.  The congregation would have been protected by knowing of the sin and who the perpetrator was, and there could be no accusations of a cover-up.

This is just another example of how disobedience to the Christ results in reproach.

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  • Comment by LonelySheep on 2016-06-30 11:21:07

    Such simple advice from Jesus that we have to complicate. Imagine if this advice were followed, probably a full 2/3 of judicial issues would never happen. Persons could still go to the elders if they desired, but for encouragement and upbuilding - for actual shepherding - without the fear of shunning. If they have stopped sinning, they would have no reason for fear.

  • Comment by Lucas Bridge on 2016-06-30 13:58:00

    I'm sure we've all heard "were the only religion that excommunicates wrongdoers!" I was so proud of that statement, but how unloving is that arrangement. Rather than help ones who are in need of deep encouragement and consolement. The organisation teaches elders to act like judges in a court of law requiring us to detail every aspect of the sin, only for the purpose of deciding if your worthy of being associated with. How many of our brothers and sisters are dealing with depression, fear and guilt because the organisation feels we need the approval of elders, imperfect men like you and i who also commit sin to be considered forgiven by out creator.

  • Comment by Mowani on 2016-07-01 09:22:47

    Thanks for this article.
    From this viewpoint James counsel makes so much sense: "Therefore openly confess YOUR sins to one another and pray for one another, that YOU may get healed." (James 5:16). "To one another" is to my brother, the one I trust, not to a board of elders.

    • Reply by Meleti Vivlon on 2016-07-01 09:32:06

      Too true, Mowani!

  • Comment by iiiiiii on 2016-07-02 22:09:50

    Great points This is what I have been saying. This two witness rule of the WT is totally unscriptural, and not what Jesus said at all. This is the first time I have seen my viewpoint, though it is so obvious. Then they try to bring the law of Moses into it., which is not for Christians Your point about the difference between a sin and a crime .Yes . All must be protected from rapists and pedophiles, and all must know about their crimes in order to be protected. Can you imagine the shame? But God's people need to be protected from all unrepentant sinners. And where is the zeal that hates this filth and removes it out with fire. They have allowed disgusting things in their midst !! How reproachful of God's Holy name. How disgusting! Can it be said that this governing body has been anointed by God's Holy spirit? Be zealous therefore and repent!! Anyone can talk about how it should be, .but the fact that this scum has or is extending all the way to the top as in Greenlees, Chitty, ..., , shows that talk is cheap , and the proof in in the pudding. And that is why Jesus will not judge by the things he hears by his ears.

  • Comment by Menrov on 2016-07-03 04:22:09

    Regarding some of the other points:
    par. 6 says: " Our efforts to serve God—through prayers, meeting attendance, field service, and other aspects of our worship...." None of this is found in James 1:27 Pure and undefiled religion (worship) before God the Father is this: to care for orphans and widows in their misfortune and to keep oneself unstained by the world.

    Par 7: I guess the WBTS could ask these questions to themselves as well.
    it also makes a reference to 1 John 5:14,15 which is a verse in which one can debate whether God or the Son forgives and grants eternal life.
    Par. 8 gives a very poor example in my view. It is absolutely not clear what the supposed transgression was.
    Par. 10: why going to so-called mature brothers. Why is she not going to a mature sister?
    Par. 13: an attitude you will find in many mature men and women, you do not have to be an overseer. Also I know an oversee who was not even close to this example in his dealings with others.
    Par. 17 says "That is encouraging, for it means that a solution is usually found before the situation reaches the point where an unrepentant sinner must be removed from the congregation. "
    well, Matthew 18:15-17 does not refer to removing from a congregation but bringing the issue in front of the congregation.
    Well, that is it. What is most striking is that the entire article says nothing about the attitude of the organization regarding the issues discussed.

    • Reply by Dajo on 2016-07-03 05:24:06

      Menrov,
      after sitting through the wt study this afternoon, I appreciated your additions to the discussion - particularly after reading par 6 again.
      Sadly this wt study, whilst seeming to encourage "warm and fuzzy" feelings. (Feelings are Oh so real....). it is full of the usual control mechanisms.
      Thank you,
      David

  • Comment by Deo_ac_veritati on 2016-07-04 10:59:27

    Hello Meleti:

    Firstly, let me say that this is my first time posting to this site (and in fact, my first time posting to ANY, um, let’s just say “forbidden” website). I could probably go on for many paragraphs about how Beroean Pickets has enlightened me over the last six months with its excellent and uplifting Bible commentary, but unfortunately my time is limited today. Perhaps I may address that in a future post. Suffice it to say that I truly appreciate your insights and observations (along with those of the other commentators on the site) and offer a loving and heartfelt “Thank you” for what is obviously an immense amount of time, effort, and energy that you put forth.

    That being said, I had a question on something I cannot reconcile between this article and the other article you mentioned, and linked to, “Be Modest in Walking with God.”

    In the current article, referring to Matthew 18:15-17 you note “The fact is Jesus provides no qualification as to the type of sin he’s referring to.” On the other hand, in the older “Be Modest” article, you seem to take the other view, noting that this passage is referring to a specific category of sin, “of a personal nature” as you put it, noting that “So we are talking about sins like slander, stealing, fraud, etc.” From that statement, I would conclude that the procedural process spoken of in this passage is only to be used for those types of sin? But if that is so, then that contradicts what you stated in the newer “Settle Differences” article, specifically “Anything that qualifies as sin in the Bible is to be handled in this way.”

    Please note that I am NOT trying to pin you down in any way (and if I have come across that way, please accept my sincere apology) – but am simply trying to reconcile the two points of view.
    Thank you for any response to my query, and please accept my warm Christian love.

    • Reply by Meleti Vivlon on 2016-07-04 12:20:03

      Thank you so much, Deo_ac_veritati. I appreciate your encouraging words.

      As to your question, in the article, Be Modest in Walking with God I was trying to show how Matthew 18:15-17 was applicable to sins of all kinds, but I was doing this with the JW audience in mind. So I began with sins of a personal nature like slander or fraud. Then in the next subtitle, "Disfellowshipping—Handling General Sins", I tried to show how these same verses an apply to sins that are not personal in nature. Of course, they are all sins, but the division I was making was to show a JW readership that really all such sins are to be handed in the same way using the procedure at Mt 18:15-17.

      I hope that clarifies things. I look forward to reading your comments and again, welcome to the site.

      • Reply by Deo_ac_veritati on 2016-07-05 13:06:18

        That does clarify things, especially upon rereading the article. Thank you for your response, and for all you do on this site. I look forward to posting again in the future.

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